peace- I am not surprised that your XH is showing his anger...as you say HE gave up everything and he may have expected life to instantly be better after the D was final. Right now his anger may be directed toward you because he can't look at himself. Hopefully someday he will be able to accept he played the leading role in his own demise.
Forgiveness can be tough. This may sound really bad but I can't say I have completely forgiven my XH and OW for destroying my children's family. I have let go of the pain and anger while I understand that people make mistakes...however my XH and his wife's lack of remorse or even compassion for how this has effected my kids leaves me cold. Forgiveness is a choice however with time and as you let go, it can become an easier choice...and probably the healthiest choice. Maybe you will be able to do a better job of it than I have done.
