You sound like you are really "getting it" and doing a great job with your kids: those relationships will stand the test out time, and nothing touches a W's heart more than someone really connecting to and nurturing her children.
Keep doing what you are doing... for yourself and your kids first, and for her a distant third.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09