I know we are over...just trying to get thru again.
Sandy
OK, don't say or even think this any more! It is self defeating. You said the same things before and your H returned. I'd much rather you say, "I'll do my best and give it my all!"
Someone please help me understand why he is doing this? I feel like he is manipulating my feelings..he says no..I just want to make sure you know.
Sandy
I don't know, but I think most of the WAS are confused and messed up, I guess some might be manipulative. You would probably know if that is the case or not. I do think they always say look at the WAS actions and not their words. Karen
Your most intense negative emotions will and are coming out when you have contact with your H. Right? The more contact you have with him, the harder it is to maintain your love for him. You become frustrated, frustration leads to anger and anger leads to resentment. Every time you go down through this cycle it steals a little bit of your love and energy.
At this point try to keep your contact with him limited to the kids. By doing this you will conserve the love you carry for him, you will need it.
I hope this makes sense. In my own situation, I began to realize it after awhile. That's not to say I didn't have my own eruptions from time to time, but realizing the consequence allowed me to step back and choose my battles. Emotions are a powerful thing.
Try coming here to vent your frustration when you feel the need to release. We'll listen and offer support.
Do you have a confidant locally to talk to? Someone to call and talk to? Having a confidant to vent to at emotional times can be a God send. If I remember, you didn't let too many people know because you an OW work together.
I know you have your hands full with 3 kids at home and one of them being a toddler demands a ton of your time. As the weather is getting nice, try getting out for a power walk, push the stroller fast and hard, find a release for your frustration. It works wonders.
I agree with Steve, stay strong, it's a hard journey. I know others have told you to don't take him back etc. But there's a reason we're here dbing. We are all here with hard situations. We could get that discouragement from all our friends and family. So I just wanted to tell you to stay strong for your kids. GAL GAL GAL!!! Michele's whole premise is to save marriges that seem unsavable, and she has. So, I know this is hard for you, but you can do it.
By the way, your text made me laugh because my WH has also sent me that text -- I will always love you. Before he left it was I'm not happy. They are so frustrating!! He told me he also told OW that I was the best thing that ever happened to him, so she should have laughed and said that is how you treat the best thing that has ever happened to you. They're confusion is sickening. Good luck.
