So, all the drumrolling and lead up has amounted to naught for the moment as my attorney is out.
W didn't give me dissolution papers, didn't announce she was ending her affair, and never responded to my email about "are we 100% done?"
So, some updates: TIRES: Well, I offered to meet W at the local tire store, and she said she couldn't as she was spring cleaning. * pin drop * Okaaaaaaay.... I guess I won't broach that subject again!
RANDOM: I was making iced tea and couldn't remember how much Splenda to put in - W makes the best iced tea, and I know how to do it now!
RANDOM 2: She called me earlier in the day to tell me S6 hurt his knee, and wanted me to come carry him when she dropped them off. Pretty funny actually - S6 is gimping along like his knee is all locked up.
RANDOM 3: I sent a follow up email to my "are we 100% done" email just saying I was making sure it had come through. Pearl recommended against this, and she is probably right, but I couldn't make a decision like this without trying.
Journaling:
So, here is the weirdest part of all. I haven't heard from W on all of this, and for about the last week and a half the kids have been saying A LOT of stuff about us getting back together - just saying stuff like "If you guys get back together, will we live at the apartment or at home?" and so on. They have never talked like this before in the whole almost 3 years.
I sat them down, and explained to them that I was going to divorce Mommy. I told them the only reason that I was going to was because husbands and wives shouldn't have other people that they are with - trying to bring down to their level. D8 said, "Yep that's what Mommy's doing!" So, I said I wasn't sure what the relationship was, but anything like that wasn't right. D8 said, "It's just not fair to you."
So, I told them that I would love to have our family whole, and I had asked Mommy for that, and asked her to stop the affair. I said it was up to Mommy, but she hadn't done it, so I was going to file divorce.
They did pretty well with it, and it was easier than I thought.
So then things got weird. D8 told me all matter-of-fact, "Well, Daddy, I want you and Mommy to get back together, and I would love it, and be happy, but I want you and her to be happy, even if it means divorce." What a freakin' mature kid!
Then, weirdness again, probably the height of the week. I knew that OM and his kids hadn't come over this week, and they haven't missed in the last 9 weeks. Also, W ended school on Tuesday, so she had plenty of time all week, basically doing nothing.
D8 has been W's biggest cheerleader, even supporting OM at times. However, tonight she dropped her own little mini-bomb as we were talking about the divorce.
She said, "I don't think Mommy and OM are going to be boyfriend and girlfriend anymore. Mommy used to talk to him almost every day, and now she doesn't talk to him very much at all in a long time. So, I'm not even sure if they are friends anymore."
Well, knock me over with a feather! I'm not sure if this explains W's strange behavior or further complicates it.
So, I guess W gets a two-day extension by default of my attorney, but geez.
