Yes, yes, yes!! Hope, I am so glad you are changing your look! NOt that you didn't look good before. But it works wonders for 1) your self esteem - the compliments you get, the way you feel inside; 2) gets your H's attention - as in what is she up to? How come she never used to dress like this? He might not say anything but men are visual creatures so I am sure he is looking 3) Show your D's that Mom is a survivor and not dead - it's OK to be sad for awhile but life goes on for Mom and she is doing very well, thank you very much!
Good on you, Hope!
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
Hope, how are you going? Are you still in the dark with H? How is D15?
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
Hi PM and Yoyo, having a WONDERFUL vacation in sunny CA. Weather fantastic and D15 is LOVING it. The best she has been in months and months. We go home tomorrow. Just quick update, H noticed my high heels and commented on them and why was I wearing them. Told him everyone wears heels at night so I put them on.
Visiting Tryingtolive who used to post this board. While here I got a new haircut/lowlights, introduced me to Fredericks of Hollywood and bought some new push them in and up bras, and going for a sprayon tan before we return home! It has been a real girly bonding trip and we even watched the "first wives club". I feel like I am ready to return home very confident (something I have not felt like in a long time). Many laughs and constant sunshine has done much for the soul
Also want to mention that H and OW were called in by HR this week and questioned about their "inappropriate relationship". No word on what was said or if they will be fired. I heard that they only have "heresay" about it but will know more when I get back to work next week. Hope the exposure will help them love bust with one another.
take care everyone. chat soon.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
Hi, We had a wonderful time and it was like therapy for D15. I caught glimpses of my child that was carefree last summer before WH dropped the bomb. She was playful, laughing, and just enjoying herself. It actually brought tears to my eyes.
Now I am back. I think that H was suspended because of A. He was called in last Wed along with OW and now it says he is out of the office till Friday. Thinking maybe 5 day suspension and OW NOTHING happened. H actually texted me on Monday telling me he is taking vacation time till Friday. I think he is worried that if L finds out it will prove adultery in court.
I meet with L on Thursday to talk about financial stuff. I am trying to drag this out as long as I can. Sometimes I feel like I am on a runaway train that I can't jump out of.
My H still seems very deep in the fog with no signs of it lifting. I am still shocked that after a 2 month PA and maybe a few months EA that H walked away from his family and a 20 year M. He has not called his sister in about a month, talked to D28 in over 3 weeks and D15 has not seen or talked to him since Dec 22. It is like none of us matter anymore but his own agenda. It is actually scary how caught up he is with OW. I don't think a heroin addict could need his fix as much as H with OW.
I still am GAL and working on myself. I hope continues to see the changes and one day the fog lifts. All that I can pray for.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
Really glad you and D got a break. I think that your H is going thru emotions inside of himself. Like an addict, he cannot stop himself but you and I know that affairs do end because the highs cannot be sustained. Wait for the affair to fizzle out. You H is NOT having such a good time anymore. Let him stew in his own mess. You know what, when you H is depressed, it's hard work for him to be 'happy' when he is with OW. Because he will try to be a 'good boyfriend' to her. How can you pretend to be happy all the time when you are in the pits? He will start to resent having to present his best side to her all the time. And if he does show his real feelings, his ups and his downs, you know what? OW is not going to like it. She did not sign up for good times with a grumpy old man.
So let nature take its course. Be patient, wise, wait.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
Went to L and everything went well with financials. H mentioned more than once -- I give you half of my paycheck and you have your whole paycheck. These financials will give him a real truth dart. I did all the bills and H had no clue what it costs to run a house.
I do agree that it can't be easy for H no matter how much he pretends. He has no real friends anymore except OW or maybe her family and friends. H called D28 this week. Told her he has lost weight and taking it easy. Said he went to a rodeo this week with guys to get away and golfed. I don't think that is true or maybe he went with OW since he can't be seen with her here in town.
It does get discouraging. I am in the same position as you -- away from my family. It is hard being on my own. The weekends are the toughest even though I try to keep busy.
I pray he awakens from this and see what is really important.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
I know exactly what you mean by the weekends! Wish I had single friends! Tonight DD20 and some of her friends are cooking out over here so I guess I'll join them. They are all like my kids!
One weekend you and I have to find a meet in the middle place and visit!
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
