I'm glad that your wife finally opened up to you stuck, after all this time- it must have felt great to you. I'm sorry for the disapointment and I hope that she opens up again very soon.
Sometimes I wish I lived with H so we could actually communicate, but for my sitch it was probably best he left
Remind me again how your W chose to come back after separation? What were u doing and how did she approach you? I remember u said it had something to do with your child but I didn't know if there was more to it in terms of the work u did.
Its so hard to stay positive when they say things like "marrying u was a mistake" or "I don't feel the same and nothing is changing for me"
I know we arnt suppose to listen to what they say, but we still hear it and it still is etched in our brains. He said the mistake thing to me today and it set me off (oops) yes, I cussed him out and hung up on him. I guess it happens and I don't really take it back because it felt good to get it all out of my system. He deserved it. Not very db of me, I know.
Anyway he called me 16 times over and over after I hung up. Finally about 2 hrs later I answered and we ended up talking for an hour and a half. He opened up somewhat, and said he didn't mean for what he said to come out that way (him making a mistake) and that he doesn't really think that, he was just upset, etc etc.
He said that he is failing all his classes, work is too stressful, dealing with all the things between me and him, finances (economy, affording our house payment is getting hard) he told me that he just doesn't feel any different about me then he did 6 mths ago and that he can't be the husband I need him to be. He said that there is someone else out there that can give me everything I deserve cause he can't do it. He said he is embarrassed to be 28 y/o living with his mom and on and on. So basically he is miserable and blames me for all his unhappiness.
He told me it was time to list the house up for sale, hearing that sucked.
So it ended up being a pretty emotional afternoon for me. Thank goodness I will be leaving for out of town tomorrow for a few days. I will have to see him for a split second tomorrow to give him the key to the house (he will be watching my dogs for me)
Even my very best friend of 8 years today said "jenn, I know u may not want to hear it, but I think its just time u try to move on." Things are getting worse and u have been nothing but sad and stressed out" And she knows my H very well too and loved him just as much as she does me. This coming from her is pretty surprising cause she has always been about us reconciling.
I'm just babbling now again. Had to get this all out.
