Slowly but surely - detach and 180

[hopefulinEG]

Oh I forgot to mention. I also asked W if she would want to go to C together again. She that she would but she thought if we went I would just be there to get her to reconcile. I said that I can't say I don't hope that is a byproduct of going but that she has a lot of unresolved issue that make her angry and resent me and the same things keep coming up between us over and over. If we are going to really be friends and live together we have to deal with those issues.

I also said that there wouldn't be any point in going if she wasn't willing to talk though. She said she didn't like thinking about the issues because it makes her so angry and she doesn't want to hate me. I said it is going to drive us apart and make us hate each other if we don't talk about it. And she agreed. But we both said we want to go to a different C who will actually work with us and mediate not just let us yell at each other and fight the whole time.