Partner left after 9 yrs - I finally detached!??

[AliSuddenly]

..so I had a little break and wrote my dissertation (yay! I did it!!). Last - wants to finish with ow

I found out he did get the contract and he moved to her office last Tuesday (my birthday, no wonder he didnt email me!). I wasnt imagining there had been a lull in emailing.. Cher told me he sent BMF an email last Tuesday saying he has to be careful what he said in emails now as he is sharing an office with her!

So she must have been out of the office as we've been emailing the last few days. I think he was anxious to let me know he is out on site for the next 3 weeks from Monday (so maybe not on email?) because he mentioned it three times! Along with saying he 'cant wait' to be out of the office, away from people and before taht, that EVERYONE at work was annoying him. Dont know if he knows I know he's working with her now, lol. He sent me three emails today. In all three he was warm, making an effort, offering solutions to things that I am dealing with with my house, the flat, my train journey.. in a way he hadnt before and he sent me an email at 5 saying he hoped I got my diss in on time, because he said it was 4 minutes to go until the deadline (so he was clearly watching the clock and thinking of me). He asked me if I was going out for a drink tonight.. he hasnt asked me that for about 8 months, so that was a new one!

I found out that BMF doesnt think he will put up with helen for much longer as she is 'mental' Cher said, there has been a number of incidents that show she is 'mental' (as they put it, not very PC!). I asked for an example.. ex and her were invited out for a drink with a couple, she didnt want to go and was bad tempered but only agreed to go if they came home early. So they went and he thought she had had a good time and they left and got home 10.30/10.45 so not late (it was upsetting to hear these details of them behaving as a proper couple). But when they got back to his.. she went nuts, shouting and screaming at him that she told him she didnt want to be late and she stormed out, slammed the door and went home.

So I felt very sad to hear this, for him. In 9 years, we did row, but never shouted and I never, slammed a door once, in all those years and never ever ever did I storm out of anywhere! Never treated him remotely like that. Sad hey, but hearing this has helped me detach. Cher said he wont put up with it for much longer.

I've noticed his emails to me are getting longer, chattier and warmer, asking more personal questions.. but then, theres never any real momentum, so it will probably change again next week!