I'll agree with the loan for the tires. Maybe put the repayment in the settlement. That way, the pressing problem will have been taken care of while holding her responsible for it.
But the kids need to be safe.
When my W busted out the radiator in her car a couple of weeks ago; it just sat at the repair shop until she had the money. She borrowed her Gfather's truck until she could fix "my" car. In the settlement, I get it back; cause it's in my name and not paid for.
Hmm..I like MC's advice about maybe putting the repayment or something into the settlement that way you avoid what Pearl said about her hitting you up for stuff..tho it may happen in the future again?
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Agree with MC, first thing is the kids need to be safe! But it does put you in a difficult position. You could think about what Pearl was suggesting, holding some future payments that you will give her to buy her some time?
Just wanted to say good luck today! I hope you find peace with whatever happens (or doesn't happen). I've got you in my heart, and I'm praying for you and your family!
And, the boys and I had a nice morning!
Hugs and love to you! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Good idea on the tires. I wouldn't do it unless there is a repayment plan in place.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Thank you for putting it into perspective like that SMW.
In my family or H there are no children of D , so i rely on the advice of those who have been children od divorce. .
This changes many many ways I am dealing with my children . although mine are all young adults , I do understand that it impacts as much as any other time of there lives.
i dont bad mouth H but in jest can refer to him as the sperm donar or dork. My kids all who are angry and hurt also sometimes call him that. BUT I always tell them that he does love them, that he si not himself and that you only ever have one father and that up until recently , he was the best darned father you could have.
I o keep eldest updated with movement within the process and all actions H is taking. He seems to appreciate it and responds as an adult in trying to see reason.
