She has told me several times what she wants...she is just willing to wait for it.
What is it she is willing to wait for???
Have you been DB'ing since May?
Hey MB..thanks for checking on me. I'm still around..just not posting much.
Yes..DBing since May..mostly DBing, I guess. That's another thing I find similar when I read your sitch...we mostly DB, but maybe not 100% by the book? Thinking some times I have a tendency to lean towards a pursuing nature, and have really begun to start second guessing that lately.
What I meant when I said she has told me what she wants and is willing to wait?
Just that she is awfully patient for a woman who told me a year ago she was done. We agreed that financially it would be difficult for us to separate and each live our own, so we decided we would work on that, get some debt paid down and work on the house in case a sale became necessary.
As time went on we spent more and more time together and have had a great year, but she has not wavered when the subject of eventually separating / divorcing comes up.
If you read recently, she told me that she never felt as though I was her best friend, but looks at me that way now..she said she is comfortable with me, us and the house feels like a home to her for the first time.
But...her feelings have not changed..she still can't tell me "I love you", and does not see us as husband and wife in the future.
So like I said..several times over the year I have heard basically the same thing(except for the best friends part)...she tells me she still wants a separation, but seems perfectly willing to wait for me to make the move and not initiate it on her own.
Maybe that will change as more time passes, I don't know. Maybe she is waiting to make sure she feels the way she wants, or thinks she should...maybe, maybe.
For me..my patience is waning..not in a bad or angry way, but in a "would like to know what the rest of my life holds" way, and I'm not so sure I want to wait, or let her make the decision for me any more.
