breakaway...I was actually thrilled with you when you said you told your son that his dad has a drinking problem. Seriously!
There are alcohol problems all across both sides of my family (thankfully, somehow I was spared from it). For the most part, my father was nothing like your H, but he definitely was an alcoholic. No one in my family ever said anything. Most of them struggled with alcohol, too. But as a child, to me it was so obvious, and I kept thinking "if I, just a child, can see what is really going on here, what does that mean about the adults around me? Are they just stupid? Do they think that white elephants don't leave footprints?"
I would have been so happy if someone had taken me aside and explained that my family has alcohol issues and talked to me as if it was something real, that I wasn't imagining things, if they had acknowledged to me that things just weren't right around here. It would have helped so much and I could have had more compassion for those around me if they had just been honest with me about what was happening.
Anyway, I don't know what the future holds for you but, good job on that bit of bravery.
