Is there another option that might be right for C? The agree with B about the elephant in the room and the lack of trust. I have had to acknowledge the pain I have caused for some things that I did before we were married and we have been married 13 years, and these were things I came clean about then. I can only imagine the bitterness Mrs. Cinco feels when Cinco pushes this issue and she is thinking in her mind about the past lies she has had to suck up. I can practically hear her teeth grinding and her muttering under her breath "and I'm the one that has to change! You son of a ..."
But I hear where you are coming from DQ on the "time to get off the fence moment" needed. I guess I think that it should be more like Cinco sitting down with Mrs. Cinco and saying that he loves her and is willing to do anything to bring happiness back into their marriage and that part of that requires he be totally honest about what he did and why, and reiterate that he wants to go to mc to get past this. And (here is where the off the fence part comes in) that being totally honest means that she will never be able to forgive him or that she doesn't want to at least work at it, then he will leave. At least he would know and you never know, they might be able to move past it. Either way there is progress.
As B said, I too am not a MC, but that is just my two cents after readign all the Cinco posts and thinking about him a lot.
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
