Lan, Maybe the sad news about FIL could an opportunity to connect more with W as Kerry indicates. Yes, kids around D7's age (including my S8) are such a delight but they do need structure and a lot of your attention.
I see what Sandi is saying but after a while GAL'ing for DB purposes get old and tiring if the W does not grow up and get with the program and continues silly, immature, wanton behavior, esp. with serious life issues going on in parallel. Your W needs a big shake up like a major life changing event. Your world famous patience is still a useful virtue.
