Ok, I do see the point of what you are all saying. The piece that may have to do with our problem was Mrs. Cinco's withdrawing her sexiness. It really had an affect on my confidence. I questioned my desirability.
I don't think I said this over here yet. There was a time when she told me "Cinco, you aren't that great in bed". Talk about a blow to my self esteem. That's about the time I snapped too. Damnit I am a good lover and I know I am, she is wrong. I wasn't the one squelching our SL and attraction for each other, it was her.
Our D was a small child at the time and I couldn't bring myself to leave. If I was a type-A personality that would have been the end of the marriage, that's not me though. As a "Nice Guy" I felt like a victimized. So I began acting out sexually which eventually led to the A's. So stupid and weak...
I'm working on getting that confident me back. It's not easy to change.
