Pearl, my concern about you being "all over the place" was concern for YOU - not your relationship, not what xBF thinks.
You were strong, resolute, you were having fun, moving on, and I know how hard it is to look backward. I just didn't want you to lose that, screw xBF.
But you did - and now you know that you made EVERYTHING clear, you laid it clearly on the line, there is no room for "well, I didn't know".
At this point, I would say, unless xBF REALLY steps up his game, go to SF and don't ever look back.
But in the short-term, gucci is right on. You laid down the gauntlet. After more thoughts, in my opinion, by allowing xBF to talk to you after an affair, you have come 50% of the way.
