Originally Posted By: Cinco
The point being, the mid-high dominance woman that I desire mentally would never be drawn to my physical appearance, it's just not masculine enough for them.


I disagree with you here, my friend. Masculinity is not about height, build, or body type. Sure, these physical attributes are the first things women notice and respond to, BUT trus masculinity is about self-confidence and having a presence, for lack of a better word. Men and women sense it, by the way you carry yourself, by the way you speak and interract. I have met small men who could comamnd a room by their very presence, and I have met huge, muscular guys who showed themselves to be followers, just in the way they carried themselves.

Masculinity and Femininity is 90% mental. Remember the woman that DQ described who weights 200 lbs, but who has the self-esteem and self-confidence to be feminine, sexy, fun, and vivaceous --> regardless of not meeting society's stereotype body? The same thing goes for men: you are what you THINK you are, to a very large degree.

-- B.


Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs
S25, D23, S13, S10
20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007