This evening my kids were looking at photo albums.
So many memories and wonderful times
So much time invested in forever.......
All gone ---poof
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
It hurts. I think about no more family vacations. No more family holidays. The memories hurt. It is the death of the life you thought you would have forever. It is so hard. I'm right there with you. I cried like a baby trying to get the last few things done to the house today so it can be sold. So many memories, and dreams that won't get to happen. It sucks, but I guess it is what it is. What we do with it is up to us.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
It does suck, but you are right, life goes on and we must move forward.
It would be ok if I did not see the pain and hurt in my kids eyes as they were looking at past birthdays.
The damage is done......
So we have to move on, brush the dirt off of us and find a new life.
Maybe it will be even more wonderful, who knows.
I can't help but feel some sympathy for the man who has to live with what he has done.
Miserable existence.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
t From the stories we hear from others about WAS and these boards, many was do not seem to ever become happy or lead truly sucessful lives I wonder what the percentage of WAS wind up in sucessful R the next time around -either with OW or the next MY XH is oblibious to anything he has created he lives a denial he believes he left a struggling M which for the last part of it was, now that I look back, due to his A peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
What is really odd is how the Ml'er puts the cart before the horse.
They can't see that the affair caused the negative behaviors from the spouse.
They think the spouses negative behaviors MADE THEM have the affair or LEAVE THE FAMILY.
Call it delusion, irrational behavior, justification, etc.....
These guys really see things like this.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Me and the daughter (14 year-old) did a little retail therapy tonight - 12 pairs of shoes......
Can anyone say BUYERS' REMORSE?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
No but I can say Imelda Marcos! You made me feel so much better, I have a shoe thing (severly restricted lately due to lack of funds but I have never bought 12 pairs in one go.I hope D'f feet have stopped growing so you get your money's worth. Enjoy them.
Ex did not take the kids yesterday. He said he lost his phone and did not have time to cook dinner.----- O.k.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
What is really odd is how the Ml'er puts the cart before the horse.
They can't see that the affair caused the negative behaviors from the spouse.
They think the spouses negative behaviors MADE THEM have the affair or LEAVE THE FAMILY.
Call it delusion, irrational behavior, justification, etc.....
These guys really see things like this.
absolutely! My H STILL claims everything is my fault. 100% my fault. Unfortunately, he's also convinced his family (my only family) and most of our friends of that as well. But this is exactly what happened!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
