10 out of 10 mate. Go to the head of the class! That is exactly what detatching is. Notice the reaction? Automatically because you're not running around after her and not taking enough of an interest in her, she begins pursuing you. The exact same thing started happening with my W after my DB coach told me how to act around her. All of a sudden she was interested in whether I was going out, how my work was, etc. Apparently it's not magic but it certainly seems that way sometimes.
Keep going as you're going right now Mark. Don't answer all her calls or messages right away. You still have to answer some right away though because otherwise you just come over as rude. The analogy my DB coach used to describe it was to be like a firefly. When a firefly lights up in the dark it is only for a moment but your eyes are drawn towards that light. In the daytime though there is light everywhere so your eyes are drawn to nothing. What you need to do is only be lit up for moments at a time so she is naturally drawn towards those moments. The rest of the time act exactly as you have been.
(I hope I'm not going to get in trouble for writing out DB coach advice!!!)
You're doing great. Keep it up.
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.
