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[markhaving probs]

Hemlock,

Portsmouth to go down..I don't think so. Again, thank you for that sound advice. I need to diffuse any contentious scenarios, but it is difficult when she is spoiling for a fight. One of the problems in our marriage is the fact I have sort of 'switched off' when she has been telling me something. If I go in with the tactic of changing the subject she
wll say...."Why don't you listen to anything I say. This is one of the problems with us, you don't listen to me". I admit this is one of the problems in our marriage and what I do not want to do is confirm to her I don't listen as this will be construed as 'more of the same'

She stayed at her parents last night as it was her birthday. She called me a couple of times on my mobile and on the landline. I was at the gym so I made sure I did not answer the calls as soon as I picked them up (Is this detaching?).

I don't know if she was trying to find out where I was so she could go out, but interestingly she wanted to know if I was going out with a good friend of mine for a drink. I got home and saw there was also a message on the landline asking me to call her, she wanted to tell me about our daughters run at school during the day, though she had already put this information in one of her texts. I had a shower as I did not want to look as though I was pursuing, next thing is the phone rings again, I let it ring a few times then answered it. She wanted to know why I had not answered her text, which is actual fact I did but it was an hour after she sent it. I made the conversation short without trying to be rude, though I think I might have gone a bit over the top as it sounded as though I did not want to talk to her. Lo and behold she rang again ten minutes later to say this was going to London on Friday with some girlfriends and was staying overnight with one of them. I think she was looking for a reaction from me, but I bit my tongue and said ok I will see you on Saturday. I did not say did you have a good time on your birthday which was Thursday 19th, and I certainly did not tell her to have a good time tonight in London. She has texted me this morning to tell ask me if the heating came on, otherwise we need to call a plumber. She has also asked what time I am going out tomorrow night, and she will leave a not about tonight's dinner - I have not responded to this text yet, I will give it about 30 minutes before I respond.

Guys, I have to keep thinking logically here as she is clearly wanting a divorce, and I really do not know where she is staying tonight but there is nothing I can do about that, only show or say as I did last night complete apathy. can I read anything into this chain of events of just forget it. Am I dealing with this situation correctly? Any advice would be greatly received.