I think my last post was a little misunderstood and I was concerned that it might be when I wrote it, but hoped that you would know what I was trying to say. I am not suggesting you dance the dance with her and leave the impression that you are going to meet a woman or to make her jealous. Even though it sounds like that is what I was saying......that is not what I meant. What I was trying to say is to do what we are told in the early stages of DBing. We GAL, we go out to do whatever we decide to do. We always look "great" when we go out and act very upbeat. Since your wife thinks it is fine for her to have secret male friends, then if she questions you about where you are going or doing......and you just smile or say that maybe you'll go see a friend. That was to try to get the point across to her to let her see how it feels from your side of the fense. I'm not saying that you do any more than that b/c it would be going too far. You don't have to say anything to her if you don't want to, other than you just want to get out a while. She needs her attention back on you and she needs to see you attractive again. As I have said in the past and will continue to say.....women will be drawn to the man she fell in love with and especially if he seems a bit unavailable to her, and once again he becomes interesting.
Don't know that that cleared up anything or just made it worse. But, I think you know the routine by now and what you should be doing.
Take care always, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
