which takes is right back to our discussions regarding women being attracted to masculinity, men being attracted to femininity, and establishing a relationship that allows each of you to display and enhance those traits that attract your spouse the most.
B - this could be one of my fundamental problems getting the type of sex I dream of. Mentally I consider myself dominant (Mid -High?), I know what I want and verbally I direct ML in whichever way I choose. All the romantic stuff, I love doing that kind of thing. Mrs. Cinco thinks it's silly and feels awkward to be made the center of attention.
Physically my build is not all that masculine, I still have the body of an adolescent and I'm 48 years old. I'm thin, lean and don't do anything to stay that way, it's just my body type. I even did body building for a time. I just ended up toned but no larger. I get the compliment most often from women, "you're cute".... evidently that doesn't elicit much sexual desire from them though.
The point being, the mid-high dominance woman that I desire mentally would never be drawn to my physical appearance, it's just not masculine enough for them.
Add to that the hiding of Mrs Cinco's femininity. There was period of time many years ago where she did such a good job of turning me off, through frumpiness, that I didn't want to have sex with her. I think that was the idea too, she didn't want it.
I want to get to that point of establishing a relationship that allows each of us to display and enhance the traits that attract us to each other. It still boils down to wanting to make it work between us. I still feel like I'm doing all of the pulling.
I compliment and encourage her when she does things that I find attractive: hair, makeup, clothing. What else can I do?
