The other thing I struggle with is trying to figure out where the line is between not being controlling, but standing up for my rights. I'm not sure where the fine line is there. And the other thing I have to take into account is whether or not if I say something if it will bring me closer to my goal or not.

And sometimes I'm not sure if standing up for something is worth the confrontation that may come because of it. As I don't want things worse, at the same time, I don't want to be a doormat. But do I put a bigger wedge between us by standing up to her on something like her being in the room when I talk to the kids?

Kevin

Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...