Ah but the fact that you WANT him to come to you for help. That's pursuing in a different way. You mentioned that you've told him repeatedly that you're there to talk, but he doesn't take you up on it. So he knows you're there. HE has to make the effort to open up since we can't make our spouse's do anything.

My W is the same way. She keeps everything to herself. But just this weekend she opened a little and that's all I needed to pry open what's been going on. But she had to make that little effort.

Same goes for your H. Since he's slowed down, if you want your M, then maybe you should too. Just a bit. Stay ahead of him, but not so much that there's no turning back if that's what you ultimately want.

So the question really is...what does Jenn want?

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER