Sigh... If only Mrs. Cinco realized just how lucky she is to have a specimen such as mine to admire. I even asked her a few months ago if she "checks me out" when I am nude.
"Eeewww NO, why would I do that?"
Which reminded of a quote I once read in a Taken in Hand website posting. These remarks are in regard to a survey on human sexuality conducted by Abraham H. Maslow in the 1930's and early 1940's. Maslow interviewed many women and concluded that they fell into three "dominance groups" -- high, medium and low. The below quote about Maslow's study is from Colin Wilson, who wrote the book New Pathways in Psychology (1972):
The high dominance women were, as you might expect, precisely five per cent of the total. Sexually, they were inclined to promiscuity and experimentation - many had had lesbian experiences or tried sadomasochism. They liked males of even higher dominance, and regarded the male sexual organ as beautiful.
Medium dominance women, the largest group, were basically romantics. They liked the kind of men who would take them to restaurants with candlelight and give them flowers. They were looking for Mr Right. They were capable of a certain amount of promiscuity, but it was essentially a second best - what they really wanted was a husband who was a good father and provider. They also wanted him to be slightly more dominant than they were, but not too dominant. Very high dominance males scared them. This group didn't have any strong feelings about the male organ.
Low dominance women didn't much like sex. They liked the kind of man who would admire them from a distance for years without daring to say so. They were terrified of high dominance males, and thought the male organ downright ugly.
But all three groups needed a male who was more dominant than themselves. One very high dominance woman searched for years for such a male and when she found him she was finally happy. But he wasn't quite dominant enough, and so she used to provoke quarrels that would end with him slapping her about, hurling her on a bed, and raping her. These sexual experiences she found most satisfactory of all.
-- Colin Wilson, pages 27-28 in the introduction to The Gates of Janus by Ian Brady (2001).
Keep in that this is all very general, and is 75-odd years out of date, but I don't think it is terribly off. Our beloved DanceQueen probably falls into that small high-dominance group, my own wife is of high-medium dominance (possessing qualities of both), and Cinco's wife probably falls into the medium-low dominance catagory. And so as not to contradict my earlier post, I also tend to think that women in that medium-dominane group, while not finding the male organ 'beautiful,' still find them attractive, fascinating, and arousing.
The important point for the men here is "But all three groups needed a male who was more dominant than themselves.," which takes is right back to our discussions regarding women being attracted to masculinity, men being attracted to femininity, and establishing a relationship that allows each of you to display and enhance those traits that attract your spouse the most.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
