I have used the "sorry to hear that" on several occasions, but I just didn't feel it was appropriate this time. I really did want him to know I was there for him. He rarely opens up or even makes himself seem vulnerable, so I was actually shocked that he even told me that. I WANT him to open up to me, and I don't want him to think that I don't care. I am not solving anything or doing anything for him....considering I hardly talk to him or see him, and I am of course going to let him deal with whatever he is dealing with on his own.
I am trying to now take the approach of treating him like he is just a friend. At this point, I am going to try everything left that I have not tried already. I am in a position where I have a court date. Its not just up in the air, I am not waiting to be served, its here and about to be done. Nothing I have done in the last 6 months has made much difference (except for that I stand up for myself more which is a positive), so now I am at a point where I am journaling so at the very least, these last 2 months I can monitor what is working and what is not.
Most days I feel like giving up, but its not in me to do that. All I know is he isn't as rushed to push the paperwork through as much as he was even a month ago, and he is finally admitting that things in his life are messed up right now instead of giving me the impression that he has no heart. We have separated, I have GAL (alot!), I have stopped pursuing, Ive done everything that I think I could have done. Time will tell now
