In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

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So do I ask her if she needs anything as my 180 or is this in some way my way of persuit or whatever?

Puppy is right on target. One thing I would caution you about is to not to swing so far the other way. I know you said you didn't do those things before, but be careful not to go overboard - It then gets to be too much and it will be smothering. (been there, done that)