I think one of the most important things I've learned here for me at least is the 48-hour rule. When you feel like filing for D or letting all your anger out on your H or sending a nasty email or whatever, just wait 48 hours and see if you feel the same. If you do, then do it, but usually 48 hours later I'm feeling a bit different, more calm or whatever. I esp. think you have to use that rule with filing for D, b/c I think if you're unsure you shouldn't do it. It's so hard to go through and so much crap I think you have to be 100% sure to do that. Karen
