My biggest mistake was taking her back too easy. I should had put my foot down and told her to work out her issues first before trying to come back. Just taking her back with open arms let her continue to be confused and took away her motivation to work on herself since I was doing all the work.
In hindsight, I should have filed the day I found out about the A. Things would have been different. Oddly enough a couple of success stories I read had the LBS do just that. It earned them some respect and was a wake-up call to the WAS and caused them to come right back. Knowing what I do now over this past year, I would actually advise that. Once the WAS thinks you don't need them it really makes them think about what they are doing. Showing you are strong is a big attraction but so hard to pull off.
I agree, but it's not in the DB catechism. We're advised to be their best friend -- even help them move their stuff in with OM/OW.
Blcccch.
Puppy
Yea that's wrong and I think I mentioned it earlier. If the WAS is having an A, you must NOT be their friend. Being their friend enables them to use you to fill in the voids the OM/OW is having trouble filling. That should be amended.
Funny thing, I got an email from the W today. I sent one telling her to fix bill and she sent one back saying she is sorry for hurting me and destroying out marriage. She say she knows I wont respond but for the record I am an incredible man and deserve better. She baiting me I can tell.
I'm not going to respond, even to tell her she's right. I have to stick to my guns and cut her from my life so I can heal. Silence says more than any clever words I could ever come up with.
Me:38 W:40 Bomb/EA 03/08 Recon twice 1/09 W files for D Story
