WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 5

[confusedinpa]

Thanks Stuck,

I like the idea of writing it down for her. Perhaps I should just write it down in a note and give her the note tonite, rather than trying to say it.

I could start by saying:

You know I'm a man of few words. There is something really important that I want to say, but wanted to be sure that I could communicate it clearly so I took the time to write a note.

Then I would hand her a hand written note with the following:

I still believe in the marriage and that it can work. I love you very much, but I know I cannot make you love me. I love you enough that if you want to be free, then you can go. I'm not going to hold you back.

A physical separation is something that you want and I feel it would do us both good. With me and the boys away this weekend, you can think about what you want to do.

While you're figuring out what you want, I feel the kids will need as much stability as possible and that means keeping them in the family home. I know that I will be able to take care of them and the house.

What do you think of that approach?