Hi, I am sorry you are having a bad day and wish I could help somehow. Of course you are going to have DB no-no's and slip ups. We all do. No one has handled their situations perfectly, not us, and certainly not out WASes. My H has admitted to saying and doing some things wrong during our separation. It is freaking hard! And the fact that many of us have never been through this kind of thing and our emotions DO get involved, makes it even that much harder. We'd have to be freaking robots to never break down, never have a slip up, never have an outburst. It is human nature for Pete's sake and we're all human. So with that said, please please don't beat yourself up for blasting him on the phone, sometimes the words just have to come out. They just have to.
Now you should take a cooling down period and not do anything until you feel calmer obviously. Actually, my H and I were threatening D and Lawyers about 2-3 weeks into our separation, we were soooo mad at eachother, it was unfreakingbelievable, but not the right time to discuss such serious stuff. It IS such a big decision and as long as he and I are unsure about our future (even if it is just a little unsure) I think it is okay to just not do anything for now. I think you need to get your mind really really used to the idea and I think it happens slowly in stages. I think you will know when the right time is to get the papers going. I don't think you are there yet?
And you know, as angry as his reaction made you, I think the whole "do what you want to do" line is actually his way of rejecting the idea. Think about it, if he really wanted the D, wouldn't he say "okay, yes, let's do this, I am tired of waiting as well." ????? I could be wrong, but that is my take on it. "Do what you want to do" always has the ring of "I'm not in agreement with what you are saying, but I'm not going to show that I care one way or the other."
I don't know. Best not to try to interpret their thoughts though.
