WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 5

[MrBond]

That sounds good. If she accuses you of being mean, just gently remind her that that is what she has repeatedly told you that she wants. Her own space.

When she said that, she didn't say "the kids and I want a divorce" just her. So you're giving her what she wants right? End it right there. Then let her stew/contemplate on all that while you're gone. I think maybe writing it down for her would be good too so that she can constantly go over it while you're away.

Her idea that she's not taking away from you is self-delusional. It's obvious she's taking away your family, your home and your kids half of their lives. Toss that back at her and see if she can still say that she's not taking anything away from you.

Remember, just say all of these things very business-like without much emotion. Imagine her like one of your kids who is pouting about not getting what he wants. You don't raise your voice, just state things matter of factly and honestly.

As much as she can try to argue with her, if you don't argue back, she'll calm down. At this point, she'll probably start hitting below the belt by talking about her past hurts, etc. So again, stop her and remind her how you had discussed that with her and that it was the past. Remind her that you had already apologized for your part, but since she can't accept that, you are giving her what she asked for.

See it just goes back to her. Deflect from you and back to her.

Float like a butterfly and sting like a bee my friend.