Since hearing from AJ and Kassie, I've been trying to put myself in their shoes. (Our spouses, I mean, not AJ and Kassie.) I try to think like them and figure out how I would act and what I would say. It's actually been better for me these last couple of days to do this instead of trying to analyze every little eye flutter or smile or frown or whatever. I think if I were your wife, and I told you I wanted out AND then you started to give me doubts about leaving with your actions, I think I might be distant too. I think I would act this way because A.) I'm confused now.....maybe I don't want to leave and B.) I'm confused but want to believe leaving is the best thing so I'm trying to be a distant and sort of mean, but you are making it hard to be mean, so I can do distant..... Know what I mean? I think this is all good stuff for you. Just have a great time. Maybe try to treat her like a really good, long time friend who you know, needs to relax a bit and deserves some extra TLC from her friends and family.
