I have been told that it takes a long time to prove sobriety and that I shouldn't believe anything my exh says or does for at least a year after he is sober.
Maybe you can give a timeline like that before you make any big decisions. Might take some pressure off of you.
I'm going to sort of agree with this. It takes people different amounts of time. The thing is right now after rereading her post he is how I was, not using but being an a$$. I would sometimes call my wife KNOWING I was going to start a fight, that's the whole "dry drunk" part. In many ways not using is the easier it's dealing with the issues you have now that you're not numbing your emotions. Until that happens one is never really sober.
I'm afraid putting a time line on this will pi$$ him off BUT having a time line for yourself is great.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
