OK, so my last text to him was: As long as you are in a relationship I cannot be your friend.
THAT was a boundary.
Quote:
How in the world do I keep those boundaries and still have some kind of contact now? I mean, i do believe I screwed myself out of it.
You cannot have contact now if he is in another relationship, not any friendship contact. Which leaves business, bi tch, or booty-call contact.
You laid down the boundary, if you go back on it, you are a doormat, and he can walk all over you anytime you say you want or need something from him in the future. If you establish another boundary he knows it means nothing.
Screwed yourself out of it? Nah...you stood up for yourself, boundaries are about getting your self esteem back, you remember what self esteem looks like right? : )
Quote:
I guess I just wait and see what he does? Or doesn't do?
Kinnda. Right now since you haven't heard back form him you have your answer. Live that way, now if poo-poo head calls and says I want to be friends, you verify that he understood your boundary and move forward from there as friends. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
