NW, RTL and V, Hello, my friends. Thanks for your support on my decision regarding my S11 - It was a tough - well, brutal decision to make, but I just could not find a way to argue against the idea that he would have a more comfortable, fulfilling year in his mom's home - than here with me as I continue to rebuild in a profound way - and as I continue through the process of my divorce. The goal now is to make the most of this summer together - and to ensure that I've got the right kind of work lined up for next year so that I can travel to visit him - and take time off when he comes to visit me.
As for B, well, her anger just won't subside - I think it's just too much a part of who she is - and so I don't engage her in any way at all anymore. My one slip was when she tried to accuse me of throwing S2's jacket at her a couple days ago when she came to pick him up. S2 was on a staircase and turned around to touch something on the ground - making him back up too close to the stairs for my comfort - so I quickly handed her his jacket - and picked him up - which was when she glared at me and snapped - don't throw his things at me....my response was, "I didn't throw his things at you. Stop lying." Should I have said nothing? Maybe...but I'm fine with having told her that I knew she was inventing another scenario - even if she does think it's real in her head...
Actually, let me back up a bit...since I don't really believe that she thinks her fabrications are all real - since that tension between her fictions and reality seems to contribute to her constant anger...okay..thought acknowledged...and let go.
Rob, you're so very right that it's just not worth the effort to "say your peace" - so I don't bother - and, oddly enough, it just doesn't mean that much to me to have her know what I think about her and the end of our marriage.
The apartment is still something of a work in progress. Moving from a house into an apartment calls for a purging on a scale that I've never experienced before...and yet there is a part of me that enjoy it. I've almost got the living room all settled - and then plan on finishing up the bedroom. The house had tons of storage space - so it was easy to tuck things away in there - the apartment doesn't offer that kind of space - and so more stuff just has to go...which is good.
Okay...time for me to get to work...I've suddenly got a lot to do...which surprises me in a good way.
