Well a true sign if he is trully managing to change his ways and resolve his extreme control issues is his reaction when things don't go how he wants them to. What you have described above tells me he wants to reconcile because he's losing control over you and he's now using your daughter to control you since he's not as effective as he once was. IMO he has a LOT more work to do regarding these issues.
In the Alt Univ. are you part of the DB group? If so look for me there.
