You really are doing a great job. I think you are making the decision to leave a very stupid one.
I haven't made a decision to leave, so I am confused on this?
About the card/present. I am going to give her the present I bought tonight at dinner. I went and got a nice friendly card and will put something in it as 25 suggested. Also, I know about no R talks tonight, its all about fun and celebrating her bday. Thanks for the support.
Also, Hang in there in your sitch. I don't think he will like it without you. Just keep what you are doing and get re-energized and then get back into it. You can do it.