I have read your advice a couple of times to try and take it in. In regards to co-operation at what point does it look like I am validating but also pandering to all her wishes as she knows how I feel about her, against not allowing her to walk all over me and try to regain some respect which is a strong feature women like as mentioned by Puppy in an earlier mail?
Short term - 1. Reducing negative feelings
She will be angry, try to control you, blame you, stamp her foot and try and get things to go her way. The most powerful thing you can do is step back from the power struggle between you. Be seen as co-operative and most of all be calm, it will also help the children stay calmer too.
Also, How do I step back from the power struggle?
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
