DQ, Thanks for responding. And yes, that is what I am trying to get out of this. He already came home from leaving me, on a bed of lies. Even though we discussed how things were going to be different and what we needed to do to make our M better (HONESTY being a big one), by him OMITTING the fact that he had been involved with this person the whole time he was gone, be it physical or not, he invalidated the whole attempt at reconciliation. Some might say, including OW2, "whats wrong with WAH having friends". And my response to that is nothing as long as they are not HIDDEN for years (BTW: Never even heard of this woman even though, come to find out, they have been "friends" and co-workers FOR 10 YEARS.
Sorry for the rant. I just can't believe what a fool I am.
All that being said, I've drawn the line in the sand with the poly because I need to be sure (in some other way besides what he tells me) that he is being COMPLETELY HONEST about this relationship.
I think this is the last straw for me.
Originally Posted By: DanceQueen
Dug-In...ok I get it now. You would want him to prove via polygraph that he didn't sleep with OW2, not just talk to her inappropriately. You have suspicions that he was physically involved with her during your separation and he denies it, so you would want him to prove it to you. Gotcha.
Wellll....that's a tough one but the bottom line is, if he is innocent he will happily take the test! He may grumble and be offended, but he would comply to prove his innocence! Now whether that is the right answer or not, I have no idea. All I know is that, even given my indiscretions, if my ex-h accused me of an indiscretion that wasn't true, I would happily prove it to him in whatever way he needed me to.
