Confessions from a former cheater...

[Sugar and Spice]

DQ thanks so much for your posts. I am one of the guilty who didn't want to hear most of what you had to say. I am guilty of overanalyzing every move H made to the point of just needing someone to hit me with a stick. It hasn't been until the last couple of months really that I have truly been able to let go and find myself and KNOW that no matter what, I'll be ok.

The funny part is, now that I'm at that place, he is coming around and I'm now the one that is unsure of what I truly want.

As for the article on being the WAS "BFF", it is the route that I have gone and it is painful and gut-wrenching and definately not for the faint of heart. It has also contributed to most of what I'm feeling now. Trying to be someone's friend when they are NOT being your friend in return, let alone acting like someone who even likes you very much will eventually take its toll on you. I am speaking only of my personal experiences, but had I taken Puppy's and many other wise peoples advice and went dark, hell even dim, I would be in a much better frame of mind and be much more receptive to the positive changes that are happening in our sitch. I have just been burnt one too many times and to be brutally honest, I just don't believe a word that he says and only about 1/2 of what he does. So we will just have to see.

I just wanted to say thank you for putting it out there for all to read, because as much as people don't want to read it, it needed to be said. Puppy, you know I think you rock too, even when I didn't listen, I always knew you were right.