Oops!!.......I think I've dropped the rope!!

[Silent Chrleader]

Thank you, BM, as always for your encouraging support.

Today, H stayed home from work and took S to get signed up for the off campus program. There is a short wait list, but H filled out all the forms and made a pitch for them to take S because he's already enrolled with the district. Everything was OK, until........

The last two hours everything went straight to he**! I don't want to go into a long disertation so I'll try to just hit the hi-lites......(yeah, right!)

-H was here at my apartment to do some work on the computer, when in walks my brother.......drunk! They argue and Bro takes H to task on some of his recent life actions, which doesn't go over well.......

-H calls my Mom and tells her to come and get Bro because he is not to be around S17 while drinking.

-Mom doesn't come and get bro, but instead comes in and reads bro the riot act and tells him she is "not offering a flop house for drunks" and she is "done" with him.........and leaves him here at my apartment, and calls me to tell me he's here.....

- I call bro at my apartment and he is obviously completely smashed. He says he came to my place because it was "closest" and he shouldn't drive drunk.... I tell him this is absolutely not OK.....

-I call H to see what his version is because I am now in the position of having to kick my drunken bro out on the street. Our conversation is not pleasant. He tells me I'm an "enabler" (which is true, but I've been working on that!) and I tell him that this, and remind him that I had "enabled" him an awful lot in the past (H replies that's probably true). Anyway, H says he will call my Mom back and tell her to come and get bro. I tell him thanks, but I will handle it. [Showing my new strength! ]

- I call Mom and tell her she has to get bro and take him to a shelter or something if she is "kicking him out". I tell her I have enough to deal with with my own juvenile delinquent child! Mom refuses and says bro came to my place on his own, so not her problem. She's done.

- I then call my apartment and tell bro that I felt I had been very clear on my expectations of him in not drinking when he came around, and I'm sorry and love him, but to please leave my home. I don't want my son around it. He hangs up on me. I call back and talk to S17 and tell him to get apartment key from bro (which I didn't know he had because S17 had allowed bro to make a copy of his!) [Bro has a history of doing stuff like this]

- I then call H back and tell him status. We then start talking about how the day went and H tells me S17 has told him stuff like I don't cook (I usually don't because I don't eat in the evenings anymore, and S17 usually has had something for himself before I get home). But, H says that S17 has also said I always make him do dishes, and laundry, etc......not true, but S17 is trying to "win sympathy points" with H and these are the "buttons" H had in our marriage (I was never the "wifey" he thought I should be and I dug my heels in and refused to meet his demands because I thought he wouldn't respect me....) Anyway, H is basically saying "See you haven't changed." and that pisses me off and I say I'm tired of being the only person in this family that thinks about someone other than themselves! H basically cuts me off and hangs up.

- H actually calls to tell me he did not mean to upset me further, but he just thought I should know what S17 thought of me.......so it's one of those sort of backhanded apologies. Then I say I may want to tell S17 how we really found out about his my space page (i.e. OW) because I don't like it that she is H's "spy", and I tell him she is only doing it to feel important and stir up crap, and H defends her........and then I really lose it and tell him what I really think of that woman and how S17 has told me she has bad mouthed me in front of my kids and H and she was nothing but a home wrecking slut........I won't go into what else I said.....not pretty........but before we hang up I do tell him thank you for the apology, and for the effort he put in with S17.....

- On the bus ride to the park-n-ride, I find out that my Mom took bro back to her house.......so, I actually walked in to a blissfully quiet home.

- I guess my bro is back to not talking to me.....

OK, I'm ready for the next "up" in this rollercoaster now!!!!