things might be getting better...

[Esky94]

Well, given that it's obvious that she's not really putting any energy into the relationship, I've decided to take the lead and start pushing things towards wrapping things up.

I've arranged the interviews with the govt Family Relationship Centre to get interviews and appointments with the family liason officer and mediator to get the parenting plan and financial settlement stuff all cleared up.

Divorce, apparently, is a totally separate option. The lady I spoke to said whether people get a divorce is a "personal choice". So, it seems like once you get the parenting plan and the financial settlement done and agreed and executed. We are, for all intents and purposes, divorced. Gosh, that's a scary realisation.

The other angle of it, is that I've realised that if a man is going to take responsibility, then I have to "lead the last mile". Even if it's not where I want to go. I've gotta get things setup as best I as I possibly can for the kids so they're affected as little as possible. Then perhaps once that's all clear, W and I can talk about things with "us".

I feel like Abraham sacrificing his son.
I feel like Daniel walking into the Lion's Den.
I feel like Shadrach, Meschach and Abednego getting thrown into the firey furnace.

I'm trying to do the "right thing" and it seems to be leading where I don't want to go. But I'm still going to keep doing it. It's really annoying because she keeps trumpeting about wanting her independence. But she's only willing to do just enough to get me out of the house. She's willing to keep letting me pay for things.

I've sent her an email with a plan out to Mid May on the meetings and sessions required to get the financial settlement and parenting plan down in place. I don't know if she's read it. I sent a few other emails the same day and some more the day after. I know she read the one the day after. She hasn't replied to any of the emails.

Yesterday, W called me up because she had finished her chat with the family liason officer. She was told about a parenting while separated course and the last one for the month was that same night. I've done it already and she wanted to know if I would babysit. My first response was it would be very inconvenient at work. We agreed I would call my managers and she would call some friends to see where we could be flexible. In the end, she arranged some babysitting so I could show up later and pick up the kids. That's team work. Now why can't we use that as a basis for the relationship with us??

Esky