Hey Jeff, you and your wife are having the most civil divorce I havve heard in a long time. I think it helps that there wasnt an ow and your kids seem to be handling it ok.
Glad things are moving along and you are doing well.
(((((GF))))) Dinner was great! I had been looking forward to the baked sweet potato!
(((((Donna))))) It has been incredibly civil. No OPs is certainly a good thing. Last night at dinner, W said that she wanted to take the key lime tree (it was a gift from her brother). He mom looked pained, and said that I was the one that made the key lime pies! So, I told W that we'd get a new one for her, and that she could come over and eat pie when I make it!
I settled on my refinancing today. At the end of the day, buying out her portion of the house costs about $120 a month. It could be a lot worse! I've got three days to back out, so the money won't actually materialize until Monday. And W has to go in Monday at the latest to sign the disclaimer deed, so that I will own the house alone.
Wow, thats all sorted fast then... so then your W can go buy somehwere in town? Have you decided on where the kids will spend their time? Presumably mainly with Mum?? You ok abuot that or are yuo going to split it 50/50?
You do sound kind of happy, cheeful Jeff, its wierd, but I am glad.
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
(((((Ali))))) She's already got a contract on the house she plans to buy. There are still a few hoops to jump through, but it should be a done deal by the end of April.
The kids will be with her most of the time during the school week, and with me every other weekend. And then some kind of 50-50 ish split during holidays. It works ok, really. Since she works 3 days a week most of the time, she will work the weekends that I have the kids, and not have to work on a lot of school days, in the end. During the week I'd only see them to get them out of the house, and for a short time in the evening, so it won't be too bad.
I haven't said much to you lately, you aren't really in a place where you are looking for guidance. So I will tell you that I am very glad that you seem to be handling all of these changes so well. And I am not sensing much in the way of 'eggshells' these days. That HAS to be a plus! Like you said, your W cannot continue to control you now that you have set each other free, so to speak. Glad that you have been able to work together on everything.
And I am jealous! I love outback and I love love love baked sweet potatoes! Actually I have a side dish I make at home.
You slice sweet potatoes and yams (one is orange inside, one yellowish-white) like you would for scalloped potatoes. Then you layer them in alternate layers in a casserole dish. In between the potato layers you put a little butter and parmesan cheese.
It is so delicious! Not healthy, with the cheese and butter, but delicious! I got the recipe from friends we had when we lived in Idaho (potato country!). I had never liked sweet potatoes until then. Guess I just don't like them with gooey sweet stuff. I like to eat them as a potato, not a dessert!
Jeff it sounds like things are civil and moving along nicely. You also sound really good, like BobbiJo said...like you've been set free. As sad as it is, I'm happy for you and the positive changes you have made and continue to make in your life.
Outback sounds wonderful. Haven't been there in FOREVER. I'll have to try the sweetpotato.
((((hugs))))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
