WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 5

[MrBond]

have fun.

In terms of the LRT, it's doing the opposite of what you've been doing in the past that wasn't working because you have nothing to lose.

It's pretty much doing what I talked about earlier about asking her to leave. Look, she's already talking about a realtor so she really doesn't give a damn about the house and what it means to you and the kids. So that's why you need to tell her that if it (the home) means so little to her, then she should leave. Why should you and the kids leave when you are perfectly happy there? Is she trying to dictate YOUR happiness? Is she trying to displace the kids and make them unhappy? She's the only one that doesn't want it, so she should just leave. If she says that it was pretty sudden for you to say that, tell her that you were thinking about it this whole time but didn't want her to get upset. But hey, she's going to get upset anyway regardless of what you do.

Does she really think that you're going to get along all hunky dory when she brings a new BF around? That's where the MLC person is living in lala land and thinks that everyone should fall in line with how THEY feel.

You are your own person with real feelings that she needs to respect and acknowledge. She really hasn't done so. She's been focussing all on her and her hurt.

I think your T was right in saying that she was probably upset because you seemed so much happier. If she wants to CHOOSE to stay unhappy, then so be it. If YOU CHOOSE to be happy, it doesn't affect her. That's when the MLC person needs to be confronted to see their own problems. I think you need to tell her that. You don't make her happy. Only she can. She needs to get self-motivated.

Is there any reason why you want to wait until your C session to tell her? Sounds like to me the sooner the better. I think if you give her the weekend to herself, she's going to be able to continue to harden her resolve to move on.