Oh Kat, thank GOD for your father being in their lives, then! Truly, this will make a HUGE difference. Hang tight to the knowledge that the father figure doesn't have to be their father...it just has to be someone who can truly show them a *healthy* man, one who loves them and will never abandon them.
My father was gone by the time of my divorce, and was never really around my son before that, either. My brother is a good influence, but he is a parapalegic and has so many issues of his own, he could never be there for my son. My only saving grace has been my fiance...
But your father Kat, is a very good thing to have around your kids. It will make a BIG difference.
