Walk Away German Wife (WAGW)

[PortlandDad]

Hey KK,

I've never noticed her mutilating herself to the extent that she did that one night. She picks constantly at her fingernails, though, but I always thought that was more of a nervous tick than anything else. It is interesting because as I've thought back through the years, she was always interested in those lifetime movies about women who were "cutters" or had "Munchausen's syndrome". It makes me wonder if she had those tendencies all along and was finding something to empathize with, or if those kinds of movies provided the inspiration for her behavior.

My IC said that BD can be hereditary. My D12 has cut herself before with a staple and carved her mom's name in her arm (her blow up back in December), so again, I'm not sure if it was causal or inspiration. My S13 had with first IC session yesterday, and my D12 is scheduled for one next week.

Unfortunately, knowing what is wrong with her and treating it are two separate issues. It is good to be able to put a name to the condition, but unless I can convince her to get some help and, perhaps, get on some mood stabilizers, there is not much I can do. She also doesn't have german health insurance, so she is very reluctant to go and see any doctors in Germany because that will deplete her already dwindling financial resources.

I'm not sure how to go about helping her at this point. Unless she comes back, she can't afford medical/mental care to help her mental state, but she won't come back to get medical help while she is in her current mental state.