I know J. I get in a situation and I think I do the right thing but then I find out I don't. I'm just frustrated.
My advice ? Learn all that you can about this first. The more you understand it. The easier it is to deal with.
Look Mich, nothing you say is going to surprise any of us. And we have been there , right where you are. And NONE of us wants to see you fail in this. We really are here to extend a hand to you.
Trapt will link you up with some MLC resourses.....right Trapt ?
And BTW ? Stop thinking so much..........Ask Trapt about that too.....
Well I had an encounter with her today. We met to talk one on one about some stuff. Nothing R related just friendship stuff (support while she's going to C blah blah blah).
If I misread....I apologize, I just assumed that you wouldn't blah,blah,blah yourself...
Her idea to meet ? Or yours ?
I guess I could have been clearer. That was the intent of the meeting. We didn't even get that far.
My idea - I got myself into a situation I could have avoided altogether
Well I had an encounter with her today. We met to talk one on one about some stuff. Nothing R related just friendship stuff (support while she's going to C blah blah blah).
If I misread....I apologize, I just assumed that you wouldn't blah,blah,blah yourself...
Her idea to meet ? Or yours ?
I guess I could have been clearer. That was the intent of the meeting. We didn't even get that far.
My idea - I got myself into a situation I could have avoided altogether
A wise man once told me that a mistake is only a mistake if you keep doing it........Nickel, Bean
So learn from it....and don't repeat it. But also don't replay it in your head a thousand times either....It's over and done, forget it......
Look no one here is trying to pis s you off. We aren't mean without a reason we don't get into flame wars, or poke at you unless your a troll.
These guys have gone before you. Their advice is aimed at you not making the mistakes they did, we did.
However...
Are you the kid who listened to his parents about not touching the red hot burners on the stove? Or did your hand well up with blisters in a cool circular pattern like mine did?
Sometimes mistakes have to be made for lessons to be learned.
The REAL mistake is not learning from a mistake.
The real mistake is repeating it, hoping for different results, and then saying..."I knew, but..."
Your fragile, you don't have to prove your tough as nails to us here. No one here is making fun of you, no one here wants anything but the best for you. There is no reason to be defensive.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
We are tryin man.......I'll kick Trapt in the a$$ to link up the resourses. Use your time reading about this. It really is easier when you understand things.....
Here is a link to the MLC resources. Read Read Read.
Just don't make the mistake of trying to figure out where she is at in this craziness. They all generally play by the same book, but everyone is different. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to put a timeline on any of it.
