Wow! Pretty funny that the IC guy can see things from a totally different perspective. For those living with it right under our noses, we tend to overlook the obvious sometimes.
I must say, for a person only 36 years old, your wife sure has had a lot of operations.
The self mutilation with the broken glass does seem like a bipoloar symptom. Does she pick at or self multilate other parts of her body/face?
I remember another guy on here named Atlas who found out his unfaithful wife had been diagnosed with Bipolar. He ended up throwing in the towel because his W did not want to seek treatment and got a divorce. The last I heard, he had recovered from alcoholism and was leading a happy new life.
So how did the IC meeting conclude? Did he give you some things to think about for the path forward?