Separated but keeping the Faith

[PortlandDad]

I've seen this posted here in the forums in some other threads, and I think it is appropriate for you and your sitch...

Do you want to be right, or do you want to be married?

Think about this: not talking to her doesn't show her that you are doing just fine, it shows her that you don't consider her important enough to talk to. That isn't the way to show her that you value her input, and it isn't validating her feelings.

You might want to try taking her calls (maybe not on the first ring), but if she wants to drag you into a fight or into a long, pointless conversation, you can gently interrupt her and say something like "Hey, I hate to have to cut this short, but I've got [something/someone] that I really have to [get done/speak to] so let me call you back when I can." That puts you back in the drivers seat to call her and lets her know that you are doing fine and life is going on normally for you. If you do this, however, make good on your promise: call her back at some point, or she is going to feel that you are being disrespectful or forgetful.