Well I had an encounter with her today. We met to talk one on one about some stuff. Nothing R related just friendship stuff (support while she's going to C blah blah blah). I could tell when I sat down that she was "checked out". I started talking and I could tell she wasn't listening to a thing I said. I said, "You know what? This was a mistake for me to come here. You don't want to hear anything I have to say." I started to get up and she said, "No no no going ahead and talk." I said, "No this was definitely a mistake." got up and left. That was a definite 180 for me. I gotta say it felt pretty d@mn good. I was able to stay calm and not lash out at her even though I wanted to rip her up and down.
It's like Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde sometimes. I see glimpses of the way my wife was and there's days like today where it seems there's an invisible wall between us.